One thing I put a lot of emphasis on is learning and growing however part of that process is the idea of unlearning. I had to unlearn the stories I created around ‘perceived rejection’. Our lives are all about perceptions, the lens through which we see the world. Perceived rejection in my young mind all came down to the subconsciously routed, anchored belief that “If I follow my heart and be with the person, I want to be with then I will be rejected by the persons’ love I crave most, my dad”. It is that belief that kept me stuck because my emotional home of fear became the driving force behind all decisions I made. YES, ALL, from work to friends to dating to communication standards, all of it.
I had a choice to make, I could continue to anchor that belief a little deeper which would eventually take me to my death bed filled with regrets and ‘could-have, would-have, should-have’s’ and relive the same old story of confusion-led fear OR I could own my power, own my story, own my uniqueness. We are faced with many choices every day and the only one that matters is the choice to choose truth. The truth of what you feel in your heart, not the ‘perceived truth’ of your 2-million-year-old primitive brain which operates only to keep you safe and safe is stuck in the same cycle of known past and familiar future.
Today, as you read this, I chose me. I chose to recognize that I am here for a reason. I chose to acknowledge the scientific fact that the odds of each of us being here is 400 trillion to 1. I chose to acknowledge that my heart beats without me having to think about and that before my brain ever developed my heart chose me and it chose you to.
Unlearning the stories, you’ve created is the most powerful, life changing practice you can do. When you unlearn, you learn more about yourself and the world around. You see the world from a multitude of perspectives. You see why other people do what they do and you see how you can be of service to them.
Becoming the best version of you is about embracing who that person actually is. It’s about going after it, realizing there will be struggles, suffering and nothing is guaranteed BUT at least at the end of the journey you’ve learnt about the most important person of all, you. That is what unlearning does to you. It reconnects you with YOU.
By Greg Smith